Parenting

Information about deciding parenting arrangements after separation.

  • This topic covers

    • Responsibilities of parents
    • Parenting after separation
    • Family Dispute Resolution
    • Parenting plans 
    • Parenting disputes and court orders
    • Abduction and Recovery Orders
    • Relocation and travel arrangements
    • Contravention and enforcement of orders
  • Special note:

    If you wish to apply for parenting orders relating to the summer school holidays and Christmas holiday period, you must apply before the summer holiday deadline. The deadline for this year is 4pm on 8 November 2024. Except in cases of urgency, an application filed after this date will be given the next available date, which may be after Christmas.

Time limitAction
28 daysTo appeal a decision of the Local Court of NSW and Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia about a parenting order from the date the decision was made.
12 monthsA court may refuse to return a child under the Hague Convention if they have been in the country for this long.
18 yearsYou can apply for parenting orders until your child becomes an adult.

Organisations

OrganisationResponsibilities
Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia

Hears applications for parenting orders, including Recovery Orders and orders relating to relocation or travel.

All applications for parenting orders are filed in Division two of the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia.

An application under the Hague Convention is dealt with in Division one of the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia if a child is brought to Australia unlawfully. If a child is removed from Australia unlawfully, an application for return will be dealt with in the appropriate court of that country.

Local Court of NSWHears applications for parenting orders, including Recovery Orders and orders relating to relocation or travel.
Supreme Court of NSWHears applications for Adoption Orders.

Legislation

AuthorityCovers
Adoption Act 2000 (NSW)Deals with adoption in the Supreme Court of NSW.
Family Law Act 1975 (Cth)Deals with parenting matters.
Surrogacy Act 2010 (NSW)Deals with surrogacy in the Supreme Court of NSW.

Common termDefinition
ChildA person who is under 18.
Child supportFinancial support of a child a​​fter separation. Services Australia is the Commonwealth Government agency that implements the statutory child support scheme.
Consent ordersParenting orders made by the court when parents have agreed on arrangements for a child. An application for consent orders can be made in the Local Court of NSW or Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia.
Contravention Where one parent does not comply with a parenting order. Also known as a breach of an order.
Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)

FDR is a type of mediation that helps parents reach an agreement about arrangements for their child.

It is part of the process known as pre-action procedures (PAPS) and must be completed before you can apply to court for parenting orders.

Family Law Watch List

The Family Law Watchlist is a system maintained by the Australian Federal Police that stops a child from being taken out of Australia unlawfully. The watchlist operates at all points of arrival and departure in Australia.

It is sometimes known as the airport watch list.

Family violence

Violent, threatening or other behaviour by a person that coerces or controls a member of that person's family or causes them to be fearful. Examples include:

  • physical assault
  • intentionally damaging property
  • preventing contact with friends or family
  • unreasonably withholding financial support needed for living expenses
  • repeated derogatory taunts
  • intentionally harming an animal.
​Family violence order​A court order, including an interim order, made in any State or Territory to protect a person from family violence.
​Genuine steps certificate​A certificate that genuine steps have been taken to resolve disputes before proceedings.
​Guardian ad Litem (GAL)​A GAL is appointed by a Court or Tribunal to conduct legal proceedings on behalf of a person who is:
  • incapable of representing him or herself,
  • incapable of giving proper instructions to his or her legal representative, and/or
  • under legal incapacity due to age, mental illness or incapacity, disability or other special circumstances in relation to the conduct of the proceedings.
The role of a GAL is to protect or promote the interests of the person for whom they have been appointed. A GAL may also be referred to as a tutor or special representative.
Hague ConventionThe Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. An international treaty that provides a process for the return of children abducted from their home country.
​Independent Children’s Lawyer (ICL)​A lawyer appointed by the court to represent a child in a case.
Informal relative caregiver's statutory declarationA document that shows a relative is caring for a child.
Initiating ApplicationThe form you complete to apply for parenting orders.
​Integrated Birth Certificate​A birth certificate showing a persons birth parents and siblings, as well as their adoptive parents and siblings.
Interlocutory orderA temporary order made by the Court until a final order is made. An interlocutory order will often be made in cases of urgency.
'Lives with' orderA parenting order that states who a child lives with.
Pre-action procedures

The process everyone must go through before applying for parenting orders unless an exemption applies. It includes:

  • attempting to resolve matters through FDR
  • notifying the other party of your intention to apply for parenting orders
  • giving the other party an opportunity to respond.
Parent

A person responsible for the care, welfare and development of a child, including:

  • a biological mother (except for surrogate mothers)
  • a biological father
  • adoptive parents
  • the same sex partner of a mother where the child was conceived by artificial conception and the partner consented to the conception.

In some circumstances a biological parent may not be a legal parent of a child, for example sperm or egg donors.

Parenting plan

A written agreement about the parenting arrangements for a child that have been voluntarily entered into and is signed and dated by both parents. ​

A parenting plan is not legally binding, but a court will take it into account if a dispute arises later on.

Parenting order

Legally binding and enforceable court orders that set out the parenting arrangements for a child, including:

  • who has parental responsibility
  • who a child lives with
  • who a child spends time with
  • any other matter that deals with the care, welfare and development of a child, for example, education or hand over arrangements.
Recovery Order

A court order that:

  • requires a child to be returned to a parent or person with parental responsibility for the child
  • can authorise the police to find and recover a child
  • can provide directions about the day-to-day care of a child until they are returned
  • can prohibit a person from removing the child or taking the child into their care again.
'Spends time with' OrderA parenting order that states what time a child spends with someone.
SurrogacyAn arrangement whereby a woman agrees to give birth to a child for another person, who will become the parent of the child and raise the child. The birth mother of the child is called the surrogate.

OrganisationFee
Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)You may have to pay a fee for FDR. Fees can vary, so it's best to talk to the FDR provider upfront about their fees.

Local Court of NSW

Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia

You have to pay a filing fee if you apply to the Local Court of NSW or Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia for parenting orders.

See Family law fees on the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia website.

In some cases, you may be able to apply for the filing fees to be waived or reduced. You can speak to the relevant court for more information about this or see Guidelines for exemptions of court fees on the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia website.

 

OrganisationsForms
Department of Communities and Justice (DCJ)NSW Statutory Declaration for Informal Relative Caregivers
NSW Statutory Declaration for Informal Relative Caregivers Frequently Asked Questions
Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)There are no forms for you to fill out for FDR. You make an appointment with the FDR Practitioner and they complete any necessary documentation at the assessment interview.

Local Court of NSW

Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia

Family law forms

OrganisationTypeCosts
Federal Circuit and Family Court of AustraliaLegal costs

You will generally have to pay your own legal costs in parenting matters.

The Court can order that one party pay some or all of the other party's legal costs, but it will usually only do this if there is particular conduct by a party, such as where one party breaches a court order or causes excessive delays. This is called party-party costs.  For more information, see Family Law: Costs on the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia website. 

Last updated: December 2024